What a Guy Wants (follow up to What a Girl Wants)

So my last post was about the generalizations in what most girls want in a guy and what can make us attracted to them. However, what about us girls? Now, seeing as I'm a girl, I can't really give too much guidance on this issue, which is why I've asked around from one of my brothers to some good friends. And guys: if there is anything you want to add to this list, please, feel free to add your advice in the comments!

Take pride in who you are. One major side of that is how you look. Try your hardest not to leave without making an effort. Now I know we've all had those horrid days when all we want to do is wear some comfy sweats and not care, but let those days be few and far between. Don't make trying and making an effort become something that happens on occasion, because then it can seriously mess with everything else in your life, especially your attitude towards the day ahead.

Not only do you need to make sure you look good, you need to feel good about yourself. Guys don't want to have to reassure you every ten seconds that yes, you're beautiful. While that's always nice to hear, realize that your image does not rest with compliments but how you carry yourself. Does this mean taking hours upon hours to get ready every morning? Absolutely not! Making yourself look and feel good about yourself does not mean that you should take loads of time each morning to put on makeup and to do your hair, because honestly, that's not the point. The point is to have enough self confidence and self esteem to walk out that door and say "Look out everybody, because I'm going to rock your world!"

Smile! Be outgoing! Make yourself noticeable and show interest in guys. Make that first effort to look a boy in the eye and hold a legitimate conversation with them. And if you're naturally shy and shy boys are your type? Still make the first move. Someone's gonna have to rise up to the challenge, and believe me, if it's between you and the shy boy, the shy boy is the least likely to come up to you and strike up a conversation. However, there is a fine line. Don't be too outgoing and overly flirty because while you may "get" all the boys, nothing of meaning will last, and that is the worst.

Just like we want boys to listen to us, we should listen to them. Don't just pretend to listen to someone's conversation while thinking of your own response because that is not helpful. They could be trying to tell us something that has meaning to them, and if we blow it off, then we blow our chance, which would be rather unfortunate. Be sincere. Laugh when they tell a joke, but don't overdo it. Show them that yes, what they have to tell you is important, and that they have your undivided attention.

Don't be fake. One thing that my brother said was that he hates it when girls feel like they need to change their entire face by putting make up on it or by putting on a persona that's different than who the girl truly is. As long as you have confidence in yourself, put forth the effort, and are willing to listen, then things should go great. Don't be afraid to make the first move! Be friends with guys, because that makes it loads easier to figure out who they are and what they're interested in. A great analogy of how guys feel about their friends that are girls is given by my buddy Bryant (even though he called my previous post false doctrine, he was misunderstood about what I was saying. Trust me. It's not false).

Again, this is a brief and generalized overview. Sometimes, circumstances change. And seriously boys, if I have over/under generalized something, please let us know. Every input helps us paint a better picture!